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Wait for him to ask. But, if you want to make absolutely sure he hears anything from you first, probably 7 or 8.
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you need to be completly honest and please use the “real” words. Don’t dance around any subject or be bashful. This is your chance to really make a difference in your childs life.
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10 is a good clean cut age.
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when you realize that they know about it. theyll drop hints like laughing at two animals going at it. dont wait too long after they know or theyll just roll their eyes at you
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they will probly hear about it at 7 like i did so theyll probly ask u about it a age 10-11
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8 seems right to me maybe 7 depending on if you live in a city where otherwise they would learn it from their friends earlier
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i would say about 10
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around the ages of 7-10
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Start telling them when they are 2, at their level. “mommy and daddy love each other and that’s why you’re here”
and then again every week until they are about 40. Just change the level. There is no one talk where you tell them. make it a natural part of life like eating dinner.
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I don’t remember what age exactly my mom talked to me and my brother about it because she was always open and honest. We learned almost everything from her, so you knew she was being honest, and also since she did tell me so early, that’s probably why I was the only one in high school class not to get pregnant!( nothing against my friends- I love their children)
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If you have to ask? NOW … besides he/she will get it from other sources before you get to him/her.
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You will know. Instinct is the best choice. For example my 9 yr old daughter is baby like. and then there are some that are mature. It depends on the child.
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When they ask about it.
Your answer should be based on his or her age and maturity level. As they get older and conitnue to mature, you can talk to them about it more and give them more facts, and more insight.
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whenever they ask… if they don’t bring it up, wait till about 7 or 8
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if the child is under 14 stick to biology he/she still has time so do you getting it together…….STAY FOCUSSED RAISE THEM PROPERLY
DONT TAKE THEIR INNNOCENSE NOT YET
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Once the child hits puberty.
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tell them when they ask but if they don’t tell them around about 10-11
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5th grade. 7 or 8 is too young–you want to keep your child innocent at that stage in life. My parents never told me, and I was teased a lot about it in 5th grade. Then, sex ed. came along in 6th grade, and we were all about equal.
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I would say at about age 8 or 9. When i was at school and I was about 10 we had a Sex Education class and I didn’t have a clue what was going on. Someone asked “how do men donate sperm” and wa slike “what the hell?” it’s better to understand and be taught from a parent rather than a teacher, it was embarrasing for me.
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As soon as they are able to understand issues. the age varies from one kid to another.
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9 or 10 this is when they notice feelings,
after the summer holidays last year my son went back to school then when he came home i heard him saying the girls chests had got bigger than his own
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Answer the question asked. Keep in simple. Use the correct terms. Don’t provide more information than what is asked.
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I’ve already started. They are 6 and 9. Of course I don’t give details. I tell them that sex is something that should be taken seriously and only to be done after marriage. I tell them that even thought is a beautiful thing it could also bring devastation like STD and pregnancy before marriage. I tell them that having kids is not easy. I wait for the right moment to start the conversation. For example a TV show with the subject or a conversation before going to bed. I always give them words of wisdom at bed time.
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Whenever they start asking, but gear the information to their age level. For instance, you’re not going to tell a five year old all the graphic details when s/he asks, “where do babies come from”. You would tell her/him something simple like, ” well, there’s something special mommies and daddies do to get the mommy pregnant and then they wait for a while while the baby grows in her tummy. When the baby is done growing it is born, and then the mommy and daddy can take it home from the hospital with them to give cuddles, change diapers and feed it.”
A teenager, on the other hand, needs and expects a little more science in the answer.
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I would say that you should have at least brought it up and have gone over the basics by the time your child is 8 years old. Otherwise, he or she is going to hear things from other kids… some of them confusing, some of them wrong. Keep in mind that you don’t have to cover STDs or sexual positions or the biology of sperm and eggs the first time you talk about it. The best thing to do is introduce the topic and encourage questions without completely overwhelming your kid with such hideous thoughts.
Looking back, I remember my mom putting out Dave Barry’s “Babies and Other Hazards of Sex” in an attempt to get me to start asking questions. I found it in the living room and read through it, laughing at the drawings of a cavewoman giving birth and sperm going for an ovary, but being the know-it-all kid I was, I didn’t ask the question she had been wanting me to.
In the end, she ended up giving me a book about it… and you may find that that’s the easiest way to break the ice with your kids. They sell children’s books that explain the whole thing very simply. Then if your kid has questions, you can be there to answer those. Best of luck!
mother of four
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